Self-Improvement, Writing Advice

How to deal with critics


Listen, if you’re reading this you’re either an artist or someone else that’s had to deal with criticism, it’s inevitable, we all have to brace for them. But how do you prevent someone’s opinion from ruining your creative groove?

Easy. Just don’t.

Opinions are like farts: some stink, and some don’t. The goal is to decipher negative criticism, from constructive criticism.

Are all critics mean, nasty people? Some are. But some are also pretty alert folks who give the artist clues how to improve their craft and/or story.

I’ve developed such a thick skin that very rarely does a bad review or nasty criticism affect my creativity. And if I see someone is going out of their way to trash my work to boost their own ego, I take steps to prevent it.

Like using the block button.

T.A. UNER is the Author of various novels and short stories. Please be sure to follow him on, where he blogs about writing, self-publishing, and life. Please subscribe to his blog posts and have them delivered directly to your e-mail inbox. He will dance on his hands if you do.


How I changed my day for the better, read on…


Today was going great. In the morning I had a great chat with an old friend I hadn’t seen in ages, and then with wind in my sails, I went off to work. Then, while I was working,disaster struck, and my equipment failed. Did I lose my cool? No. Experience has taught me not to do so. But I was frustrated, too frustrated. Maybe that’s a fault I need to work on, but this was the 6th equipment failure I encountered in the last 5 months, so perhaps I was entitled to a little frustration. But I did one thing I always do when I get flustered, I took a break and headed rather than sit there and simmer. Did I give up too soon? Maybe. My co-workers thought so. But I’d like to think that when I get angry it’s best to just walk away from something,instead of risking making a mistake while in the heat of a bad moment.

What I’m saying is, there’s no shame in being angry. But if you must get angry, make sure you don’t make a rash decision. Cut your losses, and move on. Tomorrow I’ll have extra work to do, but I’m ready for it.

And how did I turn my anger into something positive? I came home and wrote this blog post, which I hope will help whoever reads it.

Thanks for your time,

T.A. Uner


How worrying only hurts the worrier

Worry. Like doubt its an ugly five letter word that personfies negativity.

Why do people worry? Well, usually for those they love, people they think about. But even though their heart is in the right place its a self-defeating way to live.

Why? Glad you asked. I can answer that.

Worry is simply energy channeled into something negative. Now, why would you want to put yourself through that torture? Would you stick needles into your arms? No. Of course not. Why? Because it would not be prudent and it would hurt you. Worry is the same thing. Its fear manifested from our mind.

You can turn that around and make it work for you in a better way.

How? Keep reading amigo.

Do yourself a favor. Turn that worry into something positive. Something constructive. Go walk your dog. Take out the trash. Volunteer your time to help others. Turn any fear you may have into positive energy. Trust me it will come back in spades and make you feel great inside and out. Your life will change and you will begin ascending to another level.

Do I worry if my book will sell? Nope. Because I’m already happy knowing that I got published. Of course I’d like to make some money but I dont let worry take up residence in my mind. Besides, I’m too busy writing these articles for you guys. Because I LOVE doing it. Thats my payment. That’s the best payment there is. So why should I worry? That would affect the quality of my work.

Its habit really. Once you get on a roll with keeping yourself busy doing positive things and thinking fun thoughts, worrying will be a thing of the past.

So do yourself a favor. Kick worry in the ass.

You’ll be glad you did.

Your friend, and Blogging buddy,

T.A. Uner